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How Do I Start Setting Boundaries?

Setting boundaries is a crucial, but sometimes a little bit daunting part of social self-care. Setting boundaries helps you protect your energy and respect your own needs and limits.

If you are new to the subject and wonder 'How do I start setting boundaries then', read our tips below! It may seem a bit challenging at first but these steps will help you begin your journey toward a more balanced life:

  1. Identify your limits - Start by understanding what you can tolerate and accept in different areas of your life. It might be a good idea to write them down in a journal.

  2. Listen to your feelings - Pay attention to feelings of discomfort or resentment in different situations. These can be indicators that your boundaries are being crossed.

  3. Be clear about your needs - Understand and articulate what you need from your relationships and environments.

  4. Communicate assertively - Express your boundaries clearly and assertively, without being aggressive. Use “I” statements to convey your feelings and needs.

  5. Start small - Begin with setting small boundaries, and gradually work up to more significant ones as you become more comfortable.

  6. Practice saying 'No' - Saying no is a crucial aspect of setting boundaries. You don't need to justify, argue, defend, or explain your decision.

  7. Be as consistent as possible - Uphold your boundaries even when it’s challenging. This helps others understand your limits and respect them.

  8. Reflect and Adjust - Setting boundaries is an ongoing process. Reflect on how your boundaries are working and adjust them as needed.

Remember that it's totally okay if setting boundaries feels uncomfortable at first. It will become easier and more natural in time as you practice!

Best of luck with your wonderful journey. 🩷🤗

A drawing of a person setting boundaries.
Learning to set boundaries is an important part of sel-care.

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